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Invitation Wording

FORMAL WEDDING INVITATION WORDING SAMPLES

For truly formal wedding invitations, there are certain rules of etiquette that are observed when writing an invitation. For less formal situations you can be more creative.

Here are some things to remember when you’re composing a formal invitation:

•    Write out names in full, including middle names. Omit a middle name if necessary, rather than using an initial.

•    Spell out all words, including the hour, the date and the year. Spell out all words in the address, including Street, Road and    Avenue. The two exceptions to this rule in an address are Saint (St.) and Mount (Mt.)

•    Use Roman numerals in names, rather than “the third” or “3rd.”

•    For ceremonies taking place in a house of worship, use “request the honour of your presence.” Ceremonies taking place in a non-religious setting should say, “request the pleasure of your company.”

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INFORMAL WEDDING INVITATION WORDING SAMPLES

If you decide to go with a more informal wedding invitation, the sky really is the limit ~ in both design and wording. Today, couples can choose from every color of the rainbow and any kind of paper they can imagine. More and more couples are bypassing the more traditional path for invitations. Instead, they are taking the more creative and contemporary one that truly reflects their own style and personality. If you choose one of these unique invitation styles, the wording of the invitation should reflect the creative design too. You’ll find that many couples will choose a special verse, poem or quote to include as part of the invite. It’s just one more way to make the invitation your own.

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STICKY & TRICKY SITUATIONS ~ Choosing the Right Wording for Your Invitation

Every family is different. Divorces, deaths and new marriages produce endless combinations of blended and mixed families. That means there’s a lot more than one right way to word your wedding invitation.

Maybe it’s the bride’s mom and stepfather, along with the groom’s dad and stepmother, who are footing the bill for all the festivities. Maybe both the bride and groom’s parents have passed away and it’s an uncle or grandmother picking up tab. It could be that the bride and groom are paying for their own wedding. How should it be said when that’s the case? What’s the best way to word your invitation in one of these unique situations?

First and foremost, remember that there is no law that says you have to phrase your invitation one certain way. Use words and phrases that feel right to you and you can’t go wrong. Use the following examples for invitation wording as a guide…


Bride’s Parents are Hosting

Mr. and Mrs. Joe Smith
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter

Elizabeth Ann
to
Mark James Wilson

____________________________________________


Groom’s Parents are Hosting

Mr. and Mrs. Philip Wilson
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of

Elizabeth Ann Brown
to their son
Mark James

____________________________________________


Bride and Groom’s Parents are Hosting

Mr. and Mrs. Joe Smith
and
Mr. and Mrs. Philip Wilson
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their children

Elizabeth Ann
to
Mark James

____________________________________________


The Couple is Hosting

The honour of your presence is requested
at the marriage of

Elizabeth Ann Smith
to
Mark James Wilson

OR

Elizabeth Ann Smith
and
Mark James Wilson

request the honour of your presence
at their marriage

____________________________________________


The Couple and Both Their Parents are Hosting

Together with their families

Elizabeth Ann Smith
and
Mark James Wilson

request the honour of your presence
at their marriage

____________________________________________


The Bride’s Parents are Divorced and Both Hosting

Mrs. Patricia Allen
and
Mr. Joe Smith
request the honour of your presence
at their marriage of their daughter

Elizabeth Ann Smith
to
Mark James Wilson

____________________________________________


Bride’s Parents are Divorced and Remarried, Both Hosting

Mr. and Mrs. Robert Allen
and
Mr. and Mrs. Joe Smith
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter

____________________________________________


When More Than Two Sets of Parents are Hosting

Mr. and Mrs. Robert Allen
Mr. and Mrs. Joe Smith
Mr and Mrs. Philip Wilson
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter

____________________________________________


Deceased Parent

The honour of your presence is requested
to witness the joining in marriage of
Elizabeth Ann
Daughter of Jane Smith, and the late Joe Smith
and
Mark James
Son of Philip and Angela Wilson

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WEDDING INVITATION ENVELOPE WORDING SAMPLES

Unsure of how to address wedding invitations? Below are various examples of the wording for formal wedding invitation outer and inner envelopes.

Unmarried woman over 18 or divorced woman who retains her maiden name
Miss (or Ms) Amy Smith and Guest

Unmarried man over 18 or divorced man
Mr. Carter Jacob and Guest

Married couple
Mr. and Mrs. Stanley Caldwell

Married Couple when the woman kept her maiden name
Mrs. Carol Johnson
Mr. Harry Smith

Same gender couples ~ alphabetically by last name
Miss (or Ms) Amy Carter
Miss (or Ms) Stella Smith

Children over 18 years of age should be considered adults and receive their own invitation,
even if still at the home with their parents

Miss Amy Carter and Guest
or
Mr. Jacob Carter and Guest

Judge
The Honorable Lance Thompson (If Single)
The Honorable and Mrs. Lance Thompson (If married)

Doctor (Medical)
Doctor Michael Stokes (If Single)
Doctor and Mrs. Michael Stokes (If married)

Doctor (PH.D.)
Dr. Jerry Trump and Guest

Married Woman Doctor
Doctor Leanne Norris
Mr. Charles Smith

Married Couple Both Doctors
Doctors Sam and Mary Smith

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WEDDING ANNOUNCEMENTS WORDING SAMPLES

Announcement cards are sent on the day of or shortly after a wedding if there were no invitations sent. They are often sent instead of invitations to friends who live too far a distance to easily attend the ceremony. Announcements require no acknowledgment although it is customary for the recipient to send either a brief note expressing their best wishes; a gift is always appropriate but not required. This is an example of the wording…

Mr. and Mrs. Philip Smith
announce the marriage of their daughter

Elizabeth Ann
with
Mr. Mark Wilson

on Thursday, May the first
two thousand and ten

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REPLY CARD WORDING SAMPLES

Reply cards and self-addressed envelopes are inserts that you send with your invitation. These inserts are filled out by your guests and sent back to you. The cards let you know such information like, who and how many will attend and/or their meal preference. They are also known as RSVP Cards and Response Cards. Below are a few different samples of wording…

Kindly respond on or before
June 20, 2010

M ________________________

Number of Persons _________

If your guests decline, the number line will be empty or you’ll see “0”

____________________________________________

Please respond on or before
June 20, 2010

M ________________________

_________  Accepts with pleasure

_________  Declines with regret

Having accept & decline lines makes it easier for you and your guests to respond

____________________________________________

The favour of your reply is requested
Before June 20, 2010

M ________________________

_____  Accepts _____ Regrets

_____  Chicken

_____  Beef

Your guests can checkmark with an “X” or put the number of meals beside each choice.
If the Beef is checked, that means everyone is having it.

____________________________________________

The favour of your reply is requested
on or before June 20, 2010

Two seats have been reserved for

M __________________________

_______ Accepts _______ Regrets

Can be used for an adult reception or for guests that don’t know that only the names
on the outer envelope are invited.

____________________________________________

The favour of your reply is requested
on or before June 20, 2010

M ________________________________

________ Accepts with pleasure
________ Declines with regret

Adult Reception

You’re making it very clear that children are not invited.

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~ F.Y.I. ~

•    M______________ , is where your guests will fill in their names, i.e.: Mr. Jim and Mary Brown.

•    Since it’s not always easy to read handwriting, number all you reply cards on the back. Use the number beside their name on your guest list.

•    You can always fill in the names of the guests yourself before mailing. This helps to insure that everyone knows exactly who’s being invited. Good for adult receptions.

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FOLLOW UP

If the guests you invited to your wedding have not responded one week after the reply date, or their response was not complete, it is time to contact them by phone. Knowing your number of guests is important as it impacts quantities of food, chairs, table seating arrangements etc.

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